Happily Ever After

Today marks six years of being married to my hubby. Six years of bliss... Don't we all wish that statement was true? That we had a princess fairytale happily ever after, rainbows and unicorns, perfect life after our I dos?

Truth is, marriage is work. Just like any relationship. We have to work at it and work hard. Most days, things are wonderful. Some days are okay. And some days I want to ignore every last one of his phone calls. Oh yeah, things just got real. Some days, things are not easy.

Wow, what a great anniversary post Kristen, tell us all your marital problems. Just give me a second. I'm going somewhere with this.

 

My husband and I have a great marriage. Like for reals, we are cheesy and cute and all things annoying to most single people. We are happy. We are in love.

My husband and I disagree. We sometimes argue. On occasion there is a slammed door and a "just don't talk to me right now".

The last two statements seem like they came from different people, I know. Here's the thing, we grow up watching Disney movies that portray this magical marriage. We meet our prince and ride off in carriage to live happily ever after.

 

And that's just not how it works. We each have our own opinions. We have our own personalities. Our own strengths and our own weakness. If we were made exactly like our husbands, we wouldn't need them and vice versa.

I look at my husband and at myself and seriously, God could not have designed a better man than Steven for me. Everywhere that I fall short, sure enough that man strives. As annoying as that can be, it really works out to an advantage in our marriage.

 I like to plan, Steven likes spontanaity. I am a worrier and Steven is more carefree. He likes to be early, I run late. We balance eachother out in so many ways.

But we are similar in all the areas that matter. I like to be spoiled and he likes to spoil. Ha. I'm kind of kidding. Joking aside, we are passionate about the same things. We love our kids more than life. We strive to live according to God's plan. We work well together.

What I am saying is this, there's a reason the movies stop as the princess rides off into the sunset. What follows, is not always pretty. But what the film makers don't realize is that in all of that messiness of marriage, something so much more beautiful is born.

Coming together changes you. Usually...at least for us, for the better. Our weakness are altered by the strengths of our spouse. Where we fall short, they pick up the slack. Our love matures. It turns into a love that you don't see in a googley eyed Cinderella.

There is so much more behind it. There is a romance that isn't shown in rose petals and crowns. Marriage is tough but people, our spouses are worth it.